Sometimes we become alarmed when our spouse has gotten fat, or when (s)he doesn’t groom himself/herself like (s)he used to. We may feel that we have been had- like we were tricked into marrying a certain person, and then once we said “I do”, the spell wore off and (s)he turned back into a slob. Not fair. We didn’t sign up for this, etc. It’s… Read More »Help! My Spouse Has Turned into a Slob!
At the risk of “coming out” as a subversive, I have something to say to you that might shock you, but I also hope it will help you. I have seen lots of posts about how to have a simpler Christmas, how to lower stress at Christmas, how to get along with hideous relatives, etc. Apparently, you can get away with only baking three different… Read More »Radical Thoughts About Christmas
Thanks for learning how to love yourself. You may not realize it, but you are changing the world. Or at least your world. This is the best thing you can do for yourself and for everyone else you care about. It’s better than volunteering, giving blood, and even donating your organs. It is part of your life’s work. And it’s important. Remember that when you… Read More »How to Love Yourself – Be Kind to Your Spouse
In the last post, Is Your Spouse Defective? we talked about loving yourself. I am going to assume you have never been taught how to do this, so forgive me if I state the obvious. I would rather be redundant than leave out something important. Before we get started, I should state that the reason you should learn to love yourself, is that once you can… Read More »How to Love Yourself – Clean and Declutter
If you live with a lot of daily stress, your house might be the cause. The thing is, we don’t always correctly identify the source of our problems. We may think our families are causing us stress when it is really our house. I do not think it is necessary to renovate your house or to move to a different one. Slowly but surely, start… Read More »Your House Might Be Making You Sick!
I too bought The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. She has some interesting things to say. After trying her method of discarding, I realize certain things… Objects really do have power. It is surprising what brings you joy and what doesn’t. You don’t always know until you go through the process. It is wonderful to let go of things. It is healing… Read More »What I Learned from the KonMari Method of Tidying
Are you and your partner fighting over laundry and housework? If so you’re not alone. Housework is a big problem for many couples. Let’s get practical and talk about laundry. In general, most people have too many clothes and too much laundry. That is one reason it has become such an issue. There’s just too much to deal with. Another problem people tend to have is… Read More »How to Do Laundry and Stop Fighting
Do you want to have easier mornings? Of course! We all do. Yet most of us have very hectic mornings. I’m not trying to offend you, but I am going to assume that you live in a certain amount of chaos. In order to have a better morning, you have to begin the night before. That is the key. Here are a few practical tips to… Read More »How to Have Easier Mornings
My house is a mess, what do I do? The first thing you do is to clean the kitchen. It will not stay clean. The kitchen is in constant use. So, let’s define clean. Wash all the dishes and put them away. Wipe down the counters. Take out the trash. Yes, there’s more to do, but now you can go in and use the kitchen… Read More »My House is a Mess! What Do I Do?
Are you angry about doing housework? If so, you are not alone. This is a very common problem. However, you don’t want to spend too much of your time being angry. It may feel like righteous indignation, and it may even energize you somewhat, BUT anger that sticks around causes health problems and relationship problems. So, how do you stop feeling so angry about housework?… Read More »Are You Angry That You Have to Do Housework?