Are you wondering why your relationship may not be progressing in the way you expected?
Things had been going so well but, now you are feeling trapped, and your partner is exhibiting more and more controlling behavior, and as problems arise you feel like it’s always your fault. …your partner is so perfect, it must be your fault, right? If you find yourself dealing with perpetual and repetitive upset, confusion, and conflict you may be dealing with a partner who has developed Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Characteristics that define the partner with Narcissistic Personality Disorder in your relationship.
They are pretentious, arrogant, and self-centered. There is a pervasive pattern of self-aggrandizement, grandiosity, and perfectionism in behavior and in fantasy. When things go wrong they believe it is all your fault because they are perfect. Their self-definition is, ”I’m good” (special), “I’m right” (powerful), “I’m blameless” (it’s always someone else’s fault). Their needs are more important than anyone else’s and they expect to be accommodated in all things. There is a constant need for adoration and affirmation. There is a lack of empathy. Their view of the world is that it is theirs. Their view of themselves is that they are special. Their view of others is that others are their servants. They deal with the world by projecting the “perfect image”.
How Others Typically Experience people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder:
How Others Typically React to people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder:
- Placating/pacifying them
- Avoiding them
- Hating them
- Trying to please them
Underlying Psychological Issues of Narcissistic Personality Disorder:
- They secretly have low self-esteem.
- They are secretly insecure.
- They are power freaks.
If you feel that you are in this type of toxic relationship it is important to understand how easily manipulation can be used to entice you and how important it is to avoid being the target of this behavior. It is so easy to fall into the seductive trap of a relationship where the partner loves himself or herself first, last, and always. The necessary thing to remember is you may not be able to change your partner but you have the power to make healthy changes yourself and make a positive choice to embrace a new relationship based on truth and authenticity rather than sustain a false hope in something that may never be achieved. Life in Neverland will never be good.