How can I reduce anxiety caused by household clutter and mess without getting overwhelmed? You do not want a bigger house, a massive budget, or a perfect interior design layout to feel calm. Home-induced stress comes from visual overload, bad spatial flow, and perfectionism. You can slash your daily anxiety by taking fifteen minutes of […]
Defining the Household CEO: How to divide labor based on competence rather than tradition The Myth of the Fifty-Fifty Split Couples often enter my office exhausted by a “perfectly equal” division of labor. For decades, I’ve seen this exact pattern.They treat their marriage like a spreadsheet, bean-counting every dish washed and every diaper changed, only […]
I think it’s interesting that after we as a culture decided to put sex out on the table and talk it to death, so very many people are frustrated and practically in despair. In a way it’s like the problems people have with laundry. We gave up our wringer washers for washing machines, and we […]
Houses can get messy in a hurry. You could sit still in a chair all day long, and your house would still somehow manage to fall apart. If you feel angry or embarrassed about the state of your house, here are four good habits to adopt that will help you get a handle on it. […]
Thoughts and concepts commonly held may not be helpful to you. For example, do you believe that it isn’t “fair” if your spouse has something you don’t have? If your spouse likes her job and you don’t like yours, do you somehow think that isn’t fair? If your spouse only has to drive 15 […]
You can’t take it anymore—the constant criticism, the rampant perfectionism, the persnickety attitude, the OBSESSION. The problem is, you’re married to this person; and this person is not going to be okay unless things around the house pass muster. No leisurely Saturday mornings lying around in pajamas, reading the paper, (or my blog), sipping coffee, […]
Practical advice for modern couples who need more than just empathy.