Why is Thanksgiving a set-up for relationship problems? Because our concept of Thanksgiving encourages us to have unreasonable expectations. There is a place in our brains labeled “Thanksgiving”. In it, there is a harvest table laden with a golden brown turkey, steaming casseroles, polished silverware and sparkling crystal glasses. The furniture is gleaming – there is a faint hint of lemon polish competing with all… Read More »Thanksgiving is a Set-Up for Relationship Problems
You can’t take it anymore—the constant criticism, the rampant perfectionism, the persnickety attitude, the OBSESSION. The problem is, you’re married to this person; and this person is not going to be okay unless things around the house pass muster. No leisurely Saturday mornings lying around in pajamas, reading the paper, (or my blog), sipping coffee, discussing where you are going for breakfast, and what fun… Read More »Help! I’m Married to a Clean Freak!
I have had numerous clients – both men and women—who are in severe distress because their spouses are messy and/or are not doing their fair share of the housework, and it is driving them crazy. Some have been so miserable that they have seriously considered divorce. They have tried everything; it isn’t working, and they just can’t live like this anymore. If this is you,… Read More »Help! I’m Married to a Slob!
Good morning! I hope you are having better bedtimes (read previous post). Now it’s time to get your children out of bed and off to school. Here are some tips to help de-stress mornings at your house. Help your child establish the habit of laying out his/her clothes the night before. This one tip is worth its weight in blog posts! If every single thing… Read More »3 Tips to Make Getting Your Children Off to School Easier!
If you are having trouble getting your kids to go to bed (and stay there!) you are not alone. While bedtime has always presented challenges, there are now so many more distractions that parents have to deal with. I hope these tips help. Decide on what time bedtime is and stick to it. For younger children, 8:30 is a good time. For twelve-year-olds and older,… Read More »Four Tips to Make Your Child’s Bedtime Easier
Are you and your spouse frustrated, fighting, and threatening each other with divorce? I am going to give you two pieces of advice, and I want you to put them into practice immediately. Stop talking about your problems. You read that right. Just stop. Don’t say another word about them. Try if possible to give yourself a break from even thinking about them. You are… Read More »The Quick and Dirty Way to Save Your Marriage
It’s important for us all that our homes feel safe, now more so than ever I believe. This is one area we can all work on. We may not be able to achieve all that we would wish for at the present moment, but there is a lot we can do to achieve peace in our home — right now especially. Item 1: Let us… Read More »7 Ways Make Your Home a Safe Place
Are you running to keep up and feeling like you are failing? It could very well be that you are lacking one very important concept. If your home life is a source of almost constant friction and irritation, sometimes spiking into intense frustration, hopelessness, and despair, and then degenerating into resentment and blame, then I want to ask you something: How do you get things… Read More »How to run your household like a Boss
And we are scrambling to keep up, press pause with me for a minute. Let’s talk about all this. There may be a number of things that you have no control over right now. Are you and your spouse working from home? Do you have children that are now home as well? When your stress level has risen considerably, look at what you can control.… Read More »When Life Gets Overwhelming
Most people have problems in the bedroom at one time or another. And sometimes those problems can be complicated. But SOMETIMES it’s pretty straightforward. Ahem. Do your children come into your bedroom quite often? Do they climb into bed with you when they are scared, etc.? Does no one in your house stay in their own bed all night long? Do you drag pillows and… Read More »One reason you are not having sex