In this post, we will examine the fifth assumption we made about housework, namely that if we could afford to hire a housekeeping service that would take care of all the housework. I would love to tell you that there is a pretty straightforward way for you to get what you want, and that your troubles could be solved if you could just hire other… Read More »My Spouse Won’t Do Their Share of the Housework! Part Five
In this post, we will examine the fourth assumption we made about housework, namely that if he chooses not to do part of the housework for whatever reason, it means I have to do it. So he has effectively forced me to do it. He gets a choice and I don’t which is very unfair. This assumption causes power struggles and stalemates. We’ve all been… Read More »My Spouse Won’t Do Their Share of the Housework! Part Four
In this post, we will examine the third assumption we made about housework, namely that it isn’t fair that the wife has to be in charge of so many invisible parts of housework, like planning the children’s schedules and noticing when they are outgrowing their clothes, and making sure things “run smoothly”, while husbands generally get awarded hero status for washing the dishes and vacuuming.… Read More »My Spouse Won’t Do Their Share of the Housework! Part Three
Previously we examined the assumption that housework is drudgery and no one wants to do it. I left you with the thought that housework is powerful and has the capacity to make our lives miserable or enjoyable. Let’s take a look at the second assumption – Whoever has to do the housework is “low on the totem pole”, and the “slave” of the rest of the… Read More »My Spouse Won’t Do Their Share of the Housework! Part Two
My House is a Mess, and My Spouse Won’t Do His/Her Part! You may even be considering divorce because you just can’t stand living in a pigsty anymore, and nothing you do or say makes much difference. You may be so embarrassed you can’t let anyone come over. You may be so angry you are starting to think domestic violence makes a lot of sense.… Read More »My Spouse Won’t Do Their Share of the Housework! Part One
Mornings can make or break us. Here are some tips for getting out of the house on time, and in a better mood. Lay out your clothes the night before. Lay out everything, including underwear, socks and shoes. Make sure your kitchen sink is clean and empty before you go to bed. Then, when you wake up, you will be able to easily make coffee,… Read More »How to Have Better Mornings
You are not the only person to be overwhelmed with your laundry. You are not the only person to have terrible fights with your family over laundry. You are not the only person who would rather sort out Afghanistan than your whites from your colors. You are not the only one. Part of the reason people have such trouble with their laundry is that they… Read More »Are You Overwhelmed with Your Laundry?
This is the fifth post in a series. For the first post, please start with the bedroom. The kitchen is often referred to as the heart of the home. Realtors tell us that kitchens sell homes. We generally have high expectations for our kitchens, and we get frustrated with them if they aren’t working for us. You may have even convinced yourself that nothing short… Read More »Change Your Relationship with Your Kitchen without the Anxiety
This is the fourth post in a series. For the first post, please start with the bedroom. I think the living room has become a bit confusing for most of us. The living room is a common room but also a place for a number of different activities. In the living room we might read, watch TV, listen to music, entertain friends, talk with our… Read More »Change Your Relationship with Your Living Room without the Anxiety
This is the third post in a series. For the first post, please start with the bedroom. The bathroom is a place we sometimes go to decompress and be alone, among other things. It is a very interior room in which we can think our private thoughts and wash off the day’s accumulated grime. It is a room that helps us “start over” in a… Read More »Change Your Relationship with Your Bathroom without the Anxiety