Valentine’s Day is fast approaching. For many, it feels like the “last chance” to redeem ourselves for being such a disappointment at Christmas. No matter that most of us are already juggling burnout, “brain fog,” and a never-ending to-do list, we feel the pressure: WE MUST CONVINCE OUR LOVED ONES THAT WE LOVE THEM WITH EVERY FIBER OF OUR BEING… or else.
Please, can we stop?
Let’s give ourselves and everyone else a break this year. It is time to bring our expectations in line with reality.
Whether you are navigating the chaos of raising young children, managing a demanding career, or dealing with the general “noise” of a busy life, forced romance doesn’t always mix well with the daily grind. Or perhaps you are single and feeling a bit isolated by the sudden influx of red roses and heart-shaped everything. Either way, you shouldn’t feel forced to impose a “typical” Valentine’s Day celebration onto a life that is already full.
However, we can still mark the occasion in a way that actually feels good.
Shift the Focus
- Check in with yourself: What could you do for yourself that would make you feel a little better?
- Lower the bar: Please don’t give your loved one a rigid list of demands. That is often a setup for disappointment.
- Acknowledge your season: Respect your own unique life stage and do the best you can with the energy you actually have. Don’t demand things of yourself or others that aren’t realistic.
That said, I would like to give you—my dear clients and readers—my love this Valentine’s Day. You mean the world to me. Your courage, perseverance, and willingness to “go deep” inspires me and warms my heart.
