I heard this wonderful statement somewhere. Sorry I can’t remember where, but I wanted to share it with you. It is so true! And it can really make all the difference to you in your marriage (and all your relationships) to understand that it is more important to make decisions about how your life will be from here on out.
It is strangely simple to decide that you are going to have a good life.
We often believe that we are marked forever by our past and especially by what “went wrong” in our past. Our parents didn’t love us and so we think no one will ever love us. We got divorced and so we believe our relationships won’t last. These are beliefs based on a past experience and are no more true than believing that you are very lovable and that you are going to enjoy your life. The point is that your future does not have to be the same as your past. You can choose to change what is not working for you. This change will begin when you make a decision. Yes, you may have to change your thoughts and behavior. But after you make a decision about your future, these changes will happen.
Here are some other great sayings about the past…
- Use the past as a guidepost, not a hitching post.
- Yesterday is in the rearview mirror.
Has your spouse done something to betray your trust? Do you wonder if it is even possible to forgive? Do you think your entire marriage and life are ruined? I am not trying to diminish the pain you may be going through. But I want you to know that your future and the future of your marriage can be very different from your past.