I apologize for being blunt. I see so many people in pain because of faulty information. At the end of the day, sometimes we just have to know that life can be so hard. There is hope, definitely. But we may need to rethink our approach, and add some mindfulness and kindness into the mix. Our problems, as painful as they can sometimes be, can be a way for us to have better lives. If you are going through a rough patch, please don’t get so frustrated that you give up hope. There is help for you. It may just take awhile to find, and it may be painful. Be patient with and kind to yourself, and know that I am pulling for you.
- Talk to your doctor.
I’m not sure this one needs any explanation. However, let me just state the obvious and say that doctors can’t solve half of what we think they can.
Where are all these people that are standing around waiting for us to delegate? I think we may need to simplify our lives as much as possible so we have less to delegate.
- You need to tell your spouse how you feel.
Maybe (s)he already knows how you feel.
- You don’t have to put up with that.
This is code for “Hurry up and get divorced so you can find the perfect spouse who will be and do everything exactly to your liking.” This advice was probably also given by the same friend who told you to get married in the first place.
- I don’t deserve this.
This is code for “I am not getting my way.”
- Get over it.
Okay, sometimes we need to “get over it” and sometimes we need time to grieve and to let our wounds heal.