Why Do Couples Get Stuck in the Power Struggle Stage of Marriage? You are not failing at marriage. You are running an outdated blueprint and wondering why the machinery keeps grinding. Most couples I coach are stuck in the exact same place. They are either locked into rigid, traditional roles from their parents’ generation, or […]
In my forty years of sitting across from couples, I’ve heard every justification for “testing the waters.” But here is the reality most people won’t tell you: Marriage is not an extension of dating. It is a total structural shift. The Myth of the “Trial Run” I’ve seen couples who lived together for a decade […]
When people say “marriage is hard,” they’re not lying—but they’re also not being very helpful. It’s hard, yes, but why? And could it have been easier if someone had pulled you aside and whispered a few truths in your ear before you walked down the aisle? Here’s what I wish someone had told me—or […]
Are you embarking on a second marriage, especially when children from a previous union are part of the package? If so, settle in, because what you’re about to experience isn’t your average “first marriage” fairytale. It’s a whole different beast, and understanding that is step one in giving yourself (and everyone else) a much-needed break. […]
So, you’re getting married again. Congrats! But let’s be real—this isn’t your first rodeo, and if you’re not careful, it could end up looking a lot like the last one. Second marriages come with all the excitement of a fresh start, but they also come loaded with baggage: yours, theirs, and possibly a few legal […]
Deciding where to live when you remarry can present a unique challenge. In our minds, marriage often conjures images of the traditional nuclear family. We picture a couple considering factors like budget, proximity to work and school, and whether a house can accommodate family activities—a workshop for dad, a backyard for the kids to play, […]
Practical advice for modern couples who need more than just empathy.