Do you ever wonder why demanding doesn’t work? There are reasons your demands are being met with resistance. When people get demanding, it may be because they are alarmed and are thinking of something as an emergency or survival situation. The demander doesn’t know what to do and thinks the demandee does. It is like a child screaming to its mother. When this happens, the… Read More »How to Deal with Demanding People
That’s not just clickbait – it’s absolutely true. What is this concept? It’s the understanding that YOU get to decide and implement things even if no one supports you, understands you, or validates you. You are enough. You have all you need to start having success with this right now, as soon as you fully understand this concept. Let me illustrate this with an example.… Read More »The Concept That Will Change Your Life
The thrill is gone. It happens. Let’s leave off talking about sex and romance for the time being and talk about mystery. That’s a word you don’t hear too often in marriage counseling.
Valentine’s Day is fast approaching. (Valentine’s Day is generally your last chance to redeem yourself for being such a big disappointment at Christmas.) No matter that most of us are suffering from burn out, brain fog, and decreased mental capacity, WE MUST CONVINCE OUR LOVED ONES THAT WE LOVE THEM WITH EVERY FIBER OF OUR BEING…or else. Please, can we stop? Let’s give ourselves and… Read More »Valentine’s Day, Expectations, Covid and YOU!
I have had numerous clients – both men and women—who are in severe distress because their spouses are messy and/or are not doing their fair share of the housework, and it is driving them crazy. Some have been so miserable that they have seriously considered divorce. They have tried everything and it isn’t working, and they just can’t live like this anymore. If this is… Read More »Help! I’m Married to a Slob!
Couples fight over housekeeping all the time. Take two people with different ideas about what “clean” means, different expectations about what is acceptable, throw in a busy schedule, a couple of children, a dog and/or a cat or two, (or six-Ahem!) and you’ve got all the ingredients necessary for a trip to the marriage counselor. What to do?
If you are really “done” with your marriage, I want you to consider ALL your options before you get divorced. I am not telling you not to get divorced. Sometimes that truly is the best option. However, more often than people realize, there are other things that can be done, even when you think your marriage is over. Deciding to get a divorce may provide… Read More »When Your Problems Reach Critical Mass
Which you will do sooner or later. I am not talking about discovering that your spouse is actually a double agent, or a serial killer. I’m referring to that time in your life when you think you’ve made a huge mistake because your wife just isn’t supportive, or because your husband doesn’t even know you’re in the room. You can flee. You can hightail it… Read More »There Are 3 Things You Can Do When You Discover Your Husband/Wife Isn’t the Person You Married…
No, it’s not filing for divorce. It’s not minimalism, or homesteading, or cleaning out your closets. It’s not losing 50 pounds, or getting a degree, or remodeling your kitchen, or having more sex with your spouse, etc. The fastest way to be happy is to accept things as they are now, and to decide to be happy. You actually have the power to be happy… Read More »The Fastest Way to Happiness
That is rude. That is not acceptable. We all wish that the people in our lives would “do what they are supposed to do” and stay on script! However, they don’t. WE do not get to decide who someone else is supposed to be! I only get to decide who I am supposed to be, and that is not always easy. What if Einstein had… Read More »You Do NOT Get to Remodel Another Person!