Communication Breakdown

Communication Breakdown

Communication breakdown! Has communication become almost impossible and you and your sweetheart fighting, fighting, fighting? That’s something that happens to most of us, and it’s not easy. In fact, it can be very scary, and upsetting. I’m going to offer some general tips that will most likely help. First of all, when things get upsetting and your anger goes from zero to sixty in half a second, you need to calm down. If you keep trying to...

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“No” is Just the Beginning of an Interesting Conversation

“No” is Just the Beginning of an Interesting Conversation

Do you get upset when someone disagrees with you? Do you consider it a personal affront when someone argues with you? If so, communication is going to be a bigger problem for you than it has to be. “No” is just the beginning of an interesting conversation. Think about it…how interesting would it be if everyone agreed with everything you said?! There wouldn’t need to be anyone else on this earth except yourself. That’s a bit lonely. And frankly,...

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4 Things You Need to Know to Make Communication Work

4 Things You Need to Know to Make Communication Work

When communication works it’s a beautiful thing, and when it doesn’t, it can be very painful and frustrating. If you’re having problems communicating with your spouse, don’t despair. Here are four ways to make it better: Ask for what you want politely. Screaming and yelling does not get your point across. It makes the other person shut down, stop listening to you, and start thinking about how to get away from you. (S)he may also start thinking...

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You Can’t Fix It

You Can’t Fix It

We all need to know this before we can have a peaceful, enjoyable life. We do not get to remodel another person even if that person needs remodeling!  We can’t fix that person. When a child gets cancer and dies, we can’t fix it.  When our child gets involved with drugs and throws his/her life away, we can’t fix it. When your mother doesn’t love you no matter what you do, you can’t fix it. When someone with severe diabetes is stuffing his/her...

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Nobody Gets A Pass

Nobody Gets A Pass

Forgive me if this post turns into a rant. I think this is an important concept though, so I’m going to risk it. We have an idea in our culture that there’s some sort of “King’s X” or “Pass” that can be dealt to people if they have a particular problem or situation. I want to dispel this notion right now! People with ADHD, Asperger’s, eating disorders, diabetes, fibromyalgia, etc.  still have to live in the world! We all have to find a way to...

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One Thing That Is More Important Than Communication

One Thing That Is More Important Than Communication

A couple comes in to a counselor and says the problem in their marriage is communication. Counselor: Tell me more about why you are here today. Wife: We are having problems with communication. I have told him 700 times that I am not his slave and shouldn’t have to pick up after him every single effing day while he sits on his butt and plays games on his phone, and it’s like I’m talking to the wall! Husband: I did the dishes last week! You leave...

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