If the idea of letting paramedics into your overwhelmingly cluttered home in case of a life or death emergency would cause you to pause just for a moment and wonder whether it might be better just to die, you are not alone. What to do? I’ll get to that in a bit. First, I want to tell you what NOT to do. Don’t stop taking care of yourself. You may feel you should be punished for letting things get this out of hand. But you are going to need your...

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Clutter is a powerful source of stress, anxiety and depression. It causes problems with our relationships and with our physical and mental health. And yet it is so prevalent in our society. It’s interesting to look up the definition of “clutter”. And, of course, we all have our own definition. (One person’s clutter is another person’s happy place.) One of the issues with clutter is that there are so many ways to get things into our houses, (and...

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Did your wife just tell you she wants a divorce, and there is absolutely nothing you can do to change her mind? Did she tell you she is tired of talking, and that she doesn’t believe you when you say you’ll do anything to get her to stay? She is FINISHED, and you didn’t even know there was a problem. I am here to tell you your situation is not hopeless. Read on.

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Difficult and toxic people are everywhere! You may have a parent, friend, sibling, or spouse who tries to control or manipulate you, is not happy for your good fortune, puts you in the position of always having to prove your love (but it’s never enough), makes any problems your fault, (perhaps they say you are too sensitive, too serious, too whatever), and who in countless ways diminishes you as a person. You may wonder if you married a...

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One Reason Why You’re Not Getting What You Want If you feel frustrated, irritated, angry and left out it might be because…you have not yet decided what you want. Yes, I know that sounds crazy. But how’s this for crazy? “I shouldn’t have to tell people what I want. If they loved me, they would just know. And they would just do it. It’s up to _____ to make me feel better, but I shouldn’t have to tell them how. If they don’t figure it out, it...

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Communication breakdown! Has communication become almost impossible and you and your sweetheart fighting, fighting, fighting? That’s something that happens to most of us, and it’s not easy. In fact, it can be very scary, and upsetting. I’m going to offer some general tips that will most likely help. First of all, when things get upsetting and your anger goes from zero to sixty in half a second, you need to calm down. If you keep trying to...

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