I know you. You are both working; you have children; you don’t get enough sleep; you are just trying to keep your heads above water. So, I won’t bother telling you to have a date night once a week. Let’s face it–at this point in your lives, it’s not going to happen, and it will just make you feel frustrated to try to add one… Read More »Ten Tiny Ways to Keep Your Love Strong
Marriage and Relationships
Life is Full of Disappointments BUT That doesn’t have to mean you will be ultimately disappointed with your life. You may be extremely frustrated with your husband (or wife!) because, for example, no matter how often you explain that it is very important to you that he (or she) _______, he repeatedly “forgets” or just doesn’t “care enough” to do this for you. You may be… Read More »Life is Full of Disappointments BUT
Is your spouse having an affair? If asked, most couples will agree infidelity is unacceptable while at the same time admitting to having fantasies of engaging in an affair. And it’s not just men! Although there is a longstanding belief that men are more likely than women to have an affair, today’s women have more money, which makes them less dependent on a spouse for… Read More »Why Spouses Cheat – It’s Not What You Think
Spring – a time when life begins anew. After this past winter, I am hungry for spring. One way I prepare is to take stock, and to clean up what is staying and say goodbye to what it’s time to get rid of. We can do this with our relationships too. Don’t worry – I will not advise you to get rid of anybody! (Dumping… Read More »Spring Clean Your Relationships!
You do have a say over who you have a baby with. You can help who you move in with. You can decide who you will marry. You may be able to remodel a house, but you can’t remodel a person. It doesn’t work to try to change someone after you have started a serious relationship with that person. So, think hard about yourself. What… Read More »You Can’t Help Who You Fall in Love With… BUT
When I decide to listen, I like to begin by using my sense of hearing to tune in to my environment. I just make note of the sounds of my house, like my dog snoring, or the noise the washing machine makes. I notice if a sound is pleasant or unpleasant. If it’s unpleasant, is there anything I can do to change it? I can… Read More »What will you hear if you listen?
It’s January and your wife wants a divorce. Your world has been blown apart. Your wife calmly told you she is filing for divorce. No, she doesn’t want to explain why. She is done with your marriage and she’s done with you. You had no idea there was even a problem! You may never recover. Suddenly, you know you would do anything to keep her… Read More »My Wife Wants a Divorce, and I am Clueless
When you and your wife said “I do”, you might have thought you had completed your goal of getting married and therefore could now turn your attention to accomplishing the next thing on your list. In her mind, she thought you had started the marriage. You are not done! Not by a long chalk. You are going to have to pay attention to your wife.… Read More »What Nobody Told You About Your Wife
Follow these instructions to the letter and see what happens to your marriage. Complain constantly. Tell your spouse everything that bothers you about them. Be sure to repeat yourself often, as you know your spouse can’t remember what you said even 30 minutes ago. If anything goes wrong, be sure to blame the other person. Spend all of your free time on your phone and… Read More »30 Ways to Ruin Your Marriage
That’s not just clickbait – it’s absolutely true. What is this concept? It’s the understanding that YOU get to decide and implement things even if no one supports you, understands you, or validates you. You are enough. You have all you need to start having success with this right now, as soon as you fully understand this concept. Let me illustrate this with an example.… Read More »The Concept That Will Change Your Life