Put Some Mystery in Your Marriage
The thrill is gone. It happens. Let’s leave off talking about sex and romance for the time being and talk about mystery. That’s a word you don’t hear too often in marriage counseling.
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I just flat out don’t want to!
I think “lifestyle creep” has been taking its toll for some time and COVID has shown us so many things just don’t work well for us. When regular life is a huge struggle, something is wrong. We are not training for the Olympics, after all. We’re just trying to get the kids to their next game, help them with their homework, have dinner, do dishes,… Read More »I just flat out don’t want to!
How to run your household like a Boss
Are you running to keep up and feeling like you are failing? It could very well be that you are lacking one very important concept. If your home life is a source of almost constant friction and irritation, sometimes spiking into intense frustration, hopelessness, and despair, and then degenerating into resentment and blame, then I want to ask you something: How do you get things… Read More »How to run your household like a Boss
Where do we go from here?
What an interesting/difficult/fascinating/strange/unprecedented time we are experiencing. I’m talking about the lockdown in response to covid-19. This is serious. People are dying, people are losing their livelihoods, and no matter how big the stimulus bill is, there will be fallout. There will be loss. There will be “before the virus” and “after the virus.” When we “return to normal”, it will be different than normal… Read More »Where do we go from here?
Do You and Your Spouse Fight Over Housework?
Couples fight over housekeeping all the time. Take two people with different ideas about what “clean” means, different expectations about what is acceptable, throw in a busy schedule, a couple of children, a dog and/or a cat or two, (or six-Ahem!) and you’ve got all the ingredients necessary for a trip to the marriage counselor. What to do?
Tired of Being Stuck? Try This…
Are you extremely frustrated, and even in despair because things don’t ever seem to change? You have tried everything, and it just seems like whatever you do or say just doesn’t matter. You feel hopeless. Your partner will never love you. You will always be overweight, in debt, and unloved. Your house will always be a mess. I am not going to give you any… Read More »Tired of Being Stuck? Try This…
What to Do with Past Hurts
The past never lasts… The past never lasts…except every morning, noon, and night when you can think of nothing else – nothing except what you did or said that you wish you hadn’t, or what someone else did or said that left you in a world of hurt and pain. Perhaps you have forgiven that person, or yourself, but still can’t get over the hurt… Read More »What to Do with Past Hurts
Nobody’s Perfect, But Some People are Just Bat-S— Crazy!
We’ve all got issues, because we’re human. However, you should know that some people are just toxic, mean, crazy, or whatever else you want to call it. And I’m not going to call it “broken” because we are basically all broken. We don’t like to say that because it sounds like we’re “judging” (the only sin left you can be strung up by your toenails… Read More »Nobody’s Perfect, But Some People are Just Bat-S— Crazy!
Are You Frustrated Because Your Spouse Won’t Do What You Want?
If I ask for something from my spouse and she tells me no, or just doesn’t do it, I can become very frustrated and even despairing. I can become furious because I’m not getting my needs met. I can believe my spouse just doesn’t love me enough, or doesn’t care about me enough. I can decide to dish out a little payback, and ignore her,… Read More »Are You Frustrated Because Your Spouse Won’t Do What You Want?
What Have I Not Yet Considered?
What could I be missing? We should ask ourselves that question periodically, especially if we are looking at a problem. Often, we look at problems from an increasingly “stuck” place, and don’t realize that we may be missing information from other perspectives that could help us approach the problem more effectively. “You cannot solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it. You must… Read More »What Have I Not Yet Considered?