Life Strategies

You’ve ended a bad relationship, and now you’re older and wiser. But how do you avoid making the same mistake again? First of all, stop beating yourself up. It happens to most of us. If you’re ready to move on, here are some ways to protect yourself in the future. Know Who You Are We learn about ourselves through relationships with others, but we can… Read More »How to Avoid Getting into Another Bad Relationship

Are you wondering what is the difference between marriage counseling and marriage coaching? Very briefly, coaching does not look to the past to see what is wrong. Coaching does not look at the client and search for some pathology as the real problem. Instead coaching looks at the present and future, and focuses on enhancing your life. In my practice, what people commonly call marriage… Read More »What is the Difference Between Counseling and Coaching?

Husbands: pay attention to these danger signals. They may not always scream for attention, but they demand acknowledgment and proactive measures to salvage your relationship. As a marriage counselor, I’ve witnessed countless couples grappling with issues that threaten the very foundation of their relationship. It’s not uncommon for one partner, often the husband, to be caught off guard when their spouse initiates discussions about separation… Read More »Husbands: Pay Attention to These Danger Signals!

Ladies, part of me hates to ask you to do one more thing. (In my defense, no one ever said marriage would be easy.) However, learning to recognize the following danger signals can help you turn things completely around in your marriage. 1) He stops wanting your attention. Part of you may be thinking, “Oh, goody. I’m relieved he doesn’t want my attention. He is… Read More »Wives: Pay Attention to These Danger Signals!

Many of us wonder if we have a healthy marriage. We know it’s supposed to be hard sometimes, but is it supposed to be this hard? And is it supposed to be this hard for this long? We look around and see other married people and they seem to be doing better, so sometimes we wonder. Every marriage is unique, but there are two key… Read More »How to Know if You Have a Healthy Marriage

This wrong belief has put an end to marriages just on the brink of healing. The fact is, people do change. Here is a typical scenario of what happens: A wife has been telling her husband for years that she would like him to … (fill in the blank). He continues on, and seems to ignore her requests and possibly not even hear them. Finally,… Read More »Wrong Belief # 8: People Never Change

With this belief, you are taking responsibility for making yourself happy. There’s nothing wrong with that. Or is there… We do not have the power or capability of making ourselves happy. If we take on our own happiness as a job, we are bound to become frustrated. Happiness is elusive. It is not a permanent condition. If we live long enough, we will experience sorrow,… Read More »Wrong Belief # 6: I Need to Make Sure I Am Happy