Systems for maintaining intimacy when your schedule isn’t your own For many high-achievers and professionals, “business hours” is a concept that exists only on paper. When you are frequently on-call, managing global time zones, or putting out fires at midnight, your marriage often becomes the silent partner that is expected to wait. The danger isn’t […]
If you feel like the “honeymoon” is over, don’t panic. You haven’t lost the spark; you’ve just outgrown the illusions. Here is how to navigate what your brain is hiding and how to make this year—and the trip—actually feel monumental. Let’s be real: the traditional “honeymoon phase” is a bit of a marketing scam. Science […]
If You Wouldn’t Yell at Your Boss in Public, You Don’t Have to Yell at Your Spouse in Private We’ve all been there. The tension has been simmering all day, a comment is made that rubs you the wrong way, and suddenly, the floodgates open. You “let rip.” In the heat of the moment, it […]
Why Your Spouse Can’t Go From “Code Blue” to “Pass the Peas” in 60 Seconds Let’s talk about that magical, terrifying moment: The Arrival. You’ve been home. Maybe you’ve been managing the household circus, or maybe you’ve been working your own job, but you’ve mentally transitioned to “Evening Mode.” You’re ready for conversation, a shared […]
You may be really dreading the holidays this year—to the point of having an anxiety attack or at the very least an emotional meltdown. A lot of people do. Perhaps someone close to you has died, and you miss them terribly. Perhaps you are trying to have a baby, and have been unable to, and […]
Dear Lynn, My husband and I are going to my mother-in-law’s house this Christmas. I’ve avoided going there for several years because my mother-in-law is very cool and distant with me and in the past I haven’t had a good time staying there. This year I have to go – any tips on how I can […]
Practical advice for modern couples who need more than just empathy.