Home Life
The day-to-day grind of marriage isn’t always romantic—it’s bills, chores, routines, and in-laws. This section covers the practical side of living together, so you can run your home without running your relationship into the ground.
Home Life
The day-to-day grind of marriage isn’t always romantic—it’s bills, chores, routines, and in-laws. This section covers the practical side of living together, so you can run your home without running your relationship into the ground.
How to Fix Home-Induced Anxiety
How can I reduce anxiety caused by household clutter and mess without getting overwhelmed? You do not want a bigger house, a massive budget, or a perfect interior design layout to feel calm. Home-induced stress comes from visual overload, bad spatial flow, and...
Defining the Household CEO
Defining the Household CEO: How to divide labor based on competence rather than tradition The Myth of the Fifty-Fifty Split Couples often enter my office exhausted by a "perfectly equal" division of labor. For decades, I've seen this exact pattern.They treat their...
Thoughts About Sex, Laundry, and Unrealistic Expectations
I think it’s interesting that after we as a culture decided to put sex out on the table and talk it to death, so very many people are frustrated and practically in despair. In a way it’s like the problems people have with laundry. We gave up our wringer washers for...
Four Daily Habits to Keep Your House from Falling Apart
Houses can get messy in a hurry. You could sit still in a chair all day long, and your house would still somehow manage to fall apart. If you feel angry or embarrassed about the state of your house, here are four good habits to adopt that will help you get a handle on...
Thoughts Can Help You or Drive You Crazy
Thoughts and concepts commonly held may not be helpful to you. For example, do you believe that it isn’t “fair” if your spouse has something you don’t have? If your spouse likes her job and you don’t like yours, do you somehow think that isn’t fair? If your spouse...
Help! I’m Married to a Clean Freak!
You can’t take it anymore—the constant criticism, the rampant perfectionism, the persnickety attitude, the OBSESSION. The problem is, you’re married to this person; and this person is not going to be okay unless things around the house pass muster. No leisurely...
Help! I’m Married to a Slob!
I have had numerous clients – both men and women—who are in severe distress because their spouses are messy and/or are not doing their fair share of the housework, and it is driving them crazy. Some have been so miserable that they have seriously considered divorce....
7 Ways Make Your Home a Safe Place
It’s important for us all that our homes feel safe, now more so than ever I believe. This is one area we can all work on. We may not be able to achieve all that we would wish for at the present moment, but there is a lot we can do to achieve peace in our home -- right...
How to Run Your Household Like a Boss
Are you running to keep up and feeling like you are failing? It could very well be that you are lacking one very important concept. If your home life is a source of almost constant friction and irritation, sometimes spiking into intense frustration, hopelessness, and...
When Life Gets Overwhelming
When life gets overwhelming and we are scrambling to keep up, press pause with me for a minute. There may be a number of things that you have no control over right now. Are you and your spouse working from home? Do you have children that are now home as well? When...
Family Getting On Your Nerves During Lockdown?
Are you now in the situation so many others are dealing with? Two people working from home in addition to home schooling your children? Feeling a bit crowded? Or perhaps downright bloodthirsty? Don’t let the guilt consume you --just because you want to murder someone...
Do You and Your Spouse Fight Over Housework?
Couples fight over housekeeping all the time. Take two people with different ideas about what “clean” means, different expectations about what is acceptable, throw in a busy schedule, a couple of children, a dog and/or a cat or two, (or six-Ahem!) and you’ve got all the ingredients necessary for a trip to the marriage counselor. What to do?
