Emotions
Marriage isn’t just about communication and chores—it’s about how you feel in the relationship. If you’re dealing with resentment, loneliness, anger, or emotional exhaustion, this section helps you unpack the mess, understand what’s really going on, and take action to feel better (without waiting for your spouse to magically change).
Emotions
Marriage isn’t just about communication and chores—it’s about how you feel in the relationship. If you’re dealing with resentment, loneliness, anger, or emotional exhaustion, this section helps you unpack the mess, understand what’s really going on, and take action to feel better (without waiting for your spouse to magically change).
Sustaining Intimacy While On-Call
Systems for maintaining intimacy when your schedule isn't your own For many high-achievers and professionals, "business hours" is a concept that exists only on paper. When you are frequently on-call, managing global time zones, or putting out fires at midnight, your...
Is the Honeymoon a Lie?
If you feel like the "honeymoon" is over, don't panic. You haven't lost the spark; you’ve just outgrown the illusions. Here is how to navigate what your brain is hiding and how to make this year—and the trip—actually feel monumental. Let’s be real: the traditional...
The Grocery Store Rule
If You Wouldn’t Yell at Your Boss in Public, You Don’t Have to Yell at Your Spouse in Private We’ve all been there. The tension has been simmering all day, a comment is made that rubs you the wrong way, and suddenly, the floodgates open. You "let rip." In the heat of...
The Spouse Decompression Chamber
Why Your Spouse Can’t Go From "Code Blue" to "Pass the Peas" in 60 Seconds Let’s talk about that magical, terrifying moment: The Arrival. You’ve been home. Maybe you’ve been managing the household circus, or maybe you’ve been working your own job, but you’ve mentally...
How to Get Through the Holidays without Having an Anxiety Attack
You may be really dreading the holidays this year—to the point of having an anxiety attack or at the very least an emotional meltdown. A lot of people do. Perhaps someone close to you has died, and you miss them terribly. Perhaps you are trying to have a baby, and...
How to Survive In-Laws at Christmas
Dear Lynn, My husband and I are going to my mother-in-law’s house this Christmas. I’ve avoided going there for several years because my mother-in-law is very cool and distant with me and in the past I haven’t had a good time staying there. This year I have to go - any...
Why You Get So Stressed during the Holidays and What to do about it
The holidays seem to make everything worse. If you are generally annoyed about something your sweetie does or doesn’t do, you might become intensely stressed about that same thing around the holidays. It’s kind of like a full moon that lasts longer. More accidents,...
Tired of Being Stuck? Try This…
Are you extremely frustrated, and even in despair because things don’t ever seem to change? You have tried everything, and it just seems like whatever you do or say just doesn’t matter. You feel hopeless. Your partner will never love you. You will always be...
Guys, Here’s Help for Your Anger…
Rework this blog in Lynn's voice and give it a new title. This post is for men who blow up at their partners. Even if you are aware that you tend to become defensive, and criticize and blame your wife, you may have a hard time stopping this behavior. If you are...
How to Make Friends With Your Anxiety
Has your anxiety taken over your life? Do you feel like you have tried everything – yoga, mindfulness, meditation, medication, trips to the counselor, Xanax -- but nothing has really worked? Try this: Imagine your anxiety as a Rottweiler puppy. Your new friend is so...
One Method of Dialing Down Anxiety at Christmas
This post is for all you people who can’t get out of unpleasant obligations at Christmas (or whenever). I am not going to insist you create boundaries or have a conversation with your extended family explaining that you have a visitation rotation because it is not...
Resentment Stacking: The Silent Relationship Killer
When a marriage doesn’t turn out as one imagined, there’s a sneaky, destructive force that begins to creep in: resentment stacking. This is the slow buildup of little hurts, disappointments, and unmet expectations, stacking up layer by layer until they create a wall...
